Saturday evening I realized I was having regular Braxton
Hicks and nothing I did seem to help them go away. So I called one of my
midwives around 9 and told her what was going on. She said that it can be
pretty normal and there was a chance they could still go away and just try to
ignore them if possible. I had slept a lot that day, but thankfully I was able
to actually fall asleep that night! BYU had a game that night that didn’t start
until 10 ET, so Trevor was up really late. He didn’t go to bed until 2:30AM! But
he still says it was worth it…ha!
Around 4:30AM my contractions woke me up. I read and re-read
the paper I was given of “when to call the midwife,” and realized that this was
it. Two weeks before our due date! I called the midwives and they said they
would head over soon.
I knew I wasn’t “far along” in the birthing process, but the
whole pregnancy I’d been nervous about having a repeat of Rosie’s birth - her
crowning in the car - I didn’t want that again! Too stressful! Plus, they
always say that the second birth goes faster than the first. So that’s why I
asked everyone to come when they did.
Bridget and Chrissy (midwives) showed up around 7:30 and
checked my vitals. She had been head down for the last few months and her
little booty was still high up in my belly. Her position was perfect.
I put on Hypnobabies’ “Birthing Day Affirmations” track and
put it on repeat. It really calmed me down and helped me relax. A couple hours
later, my in-laws left with Rosie. I didn’t really want Rosie in the house
(plus other people). Not only did I not want Rosie to hear me yelling, but I
found it very distracting hearing her downstairs playing. It was easier for me
to relax with everyone gone.
By the time I had hit 9 hours of laboring (not counting the
contractions from the night before) I was ready to be done! It had already been
2 hours longer than Rosie’s, so I was feeling frustrated and confused. WHY
wasn’t this baby here already? I thought for sure this one would only be 5
hours tops.
I can’t remember why, but Trevor had to leave the room for a
minute and I was having a bad contraction, and I was bent over, leaning on the
tub (which was still empty), and Bridget came over and pushed on my lower
back…It did not feel good. After the contraction I stood up and just started crying. I’m not sure why, but I
lost it at that point. Bridget, Chrissy, and Erin (apprentice) were all in
there and I just felt so weak and helpless at that moment. In my mind I thought
I was going to “rock this homebirth” and it was going to be easy, calm, and
peaceful. This was my second time around and I was going to have my dream,
zen-like birth. And right then I realized that I was exhausted, hurting, and
just wanted to throw in the towel. Sooooo totally NOT rocking it.
I just wiped my eyes and kinda shrugged, “I’m really tired…”
Bridget rubbed my arm and was totally understanding and said, “That’s Ok,
that’s ok. This is hard work. You’re doing fine. This is good. Let’s go ahead
and fill the tub up. A change of pace is a good thing.”
They then began filling up the tub and Bridget had me rest
on my bed on my knees with my head down and tailbone up. Then she’d push on my
back during the contractions and instruct me to breathe out low tones then take
a deep relaxing breath at the end of each one. The pressing on my back still
did NOT feel good, but the low tones gave me something to focus on, where
earlier I was just kind of moaning and shouting randomly. Trevor stayed right
next to me holding my hand the entire time. If he ever did need to step away,
he would always RUN right back to be next to me.
I was still up on the bed, with the tub filling, when they
stopped the water to let the water heater catch up. So they started boiling
water downstairs on the stove and in the skillet! And every few minutes they
would be up with a bowl of hot water to dump in the tub J
After a while they were able to turn the hose back on, fill the
tub, and let me get in.
It felt so good! I kinda sat on my knees, with my body
leaning over the pool towards the bed. While Trevor sat on the bed holding my
hands and me. The contractions just got stronger and stronger. I could feel so
many different things going on in my body.
I was in the water for maybe 10 minutes when my water
finally broke! Hallelujah! I shouted, “my water broke!” and they came running
in and the energy in the room changed. They were busy moving around getting
gloves on and grabbing their gear. Chrissy checked the baby’s heart rate but
was having a hard time finding the heartbeat this time, it wasn’t where it had
been earlier, but didn’t think much of it.
And then my body started pushing. I could feel my baby
starting to move down my body and beginning to crown. I could also feel the
ring of fire this time. Last time this all happened in a car and I was so
distracted that I didn’t feel any of it…I could definitely feel it this time.
And as tough as it was, I was just relieved this was almost over!!! I pushed
for maybe a 2 minutes then heard “We’ve got feet!”
Both Trevor and I shouted, “Is she alright?!!” Bridget
calmly said, “She’s fine, don’t worry.” Trevor leaned into me and said, “It’s
all ok, their faces look completely calm.” My body started pushing again and
this time she came out to her chest. They then said, “Wait until your body
starts pushing again.” But that didn’t happen! So we all just sat there for a
moment waiting for my body to push but nothing happened. So they said, “Ok
mamma, we’ve got to get your baby out so we’re going to need you to push hard.”
So I started pushing. They just kept saying “push mamma push.” But it was hard!
Not in a painful hard way, but a “how do I make my body do this?” kind of way. They
told Trevor, “keep telling her to push.” He did, and I kept pushing, and then
BAM it was all over. I felt instant relief, Bridget flipped me quickly around,
and they placed our baby right on my chest.
They placed a towel over Mabel and me and we just sat in the
tub soaking in the moment. She was breathing and she was BEAUTIFUL!
After 10 minutes, they cut the cord and I handed Mabel to
Trevor and they helped me dry off and climb out of the tub and straight into my
bed.
So here’s what we think happened - The placenta came out the
same time with Mabel. So they think that the placenta was in the way, so she
must have had to go under and around the placenta which caused her to flip.
Bridget said it was a good thing I didn’t have her check me a second time when
she offered, because otherwise we would have had to pack up and go straight to
the hospital, which would probably have resulted in a c-section. Midwives can’t
legally do planned breech home births. They also said it was a good thing that
we did a water birth because the warm water keeps the baby from taking a
breath. I guess when babies are born breeched they’ll feel the cold air on
their legs, which then stimulates them to breathe. But since Mabel was going
from warm to warm AND they could feel that the cord was still pulsing, they
knew she was ok. Phew!
They then did Mabel’s exam and she was so sweet the whole
time, just calmly looking around. She would let out cries whenever she was
moved, but that’s fair J
She weighed 7lbs 6oz! That’s big compared to Rosie!
The midwives then started cleaning everything up while Trevor,
Mabel, and I laid in bed loving the moment! We are so happy and feeling so
blessed!
